23 year old Mark and I sat across from one another at a cool alternative cafe near his college campus yesterday. When I walked in he was busy chatting with the manager and two girls who were waiting in line to order. He’s good looking, outgoing and an extrovert, and though he is about to graduate from one of…
This blog posting shows real “screen shots” of text messages that were sent to me just in the last few days. I think this gives a real glimpse into the world of today’s adolescents. This is especially for those who are seeking to better understand the model and methodology of work I do with Evolution Mentoring. Growing Up…
I received a call today from a college student client who was concerned about something going on in his relationship with his girlfriend. In short, she came to him last week wanting to have an “open relationship” – meaning one where they can be free to have sex with others, while still being boyfriend girlfriend. Only the…
Insecurity is directly linked to three things: How dependent a person is upon the approval and opinions of others for their sense of self-worth. The more they depend on affirmation from others, the more insecure they will be. How much they trust their ability to safely and effectively manage what will come up in their lives.…
As a teen counselor the relationship I develop with a young person can carry on through time, and I am now seeing more first and second job twenty something clients who are finding that they need additional input to succeed in demanding social and professional contexts. My work has been published widely and includes this…
http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/best-parenting-advice-expert-raising-kids-article-1.2626491
http://www.nydailynews.com/life-style/pressure-accepted-elite-colleges-crushing-kids-article-1.2622192
Are we guilty of putting too much pressure on our kids with getting them into the “right” college? There are enough competing demands on them as it is, with them trying to fit into different social groups, their existing grades and hobbies, relationship conflicts outside and within the home and finding time for all of…
This is an opinion piece I wrote for the local newspaper where I live in Marin County, California. Unfortunately it did not get printed. Instead they ran another article commenting on how we need laws that come down harder on parents who host parties for teens. The week before they ran an opinion piece written…
An hour long interview I did for Solo Nation, a website for single parents. The topic is universal about the transitions that go on during the teen years. I hope you find value in it. Click on the image below: http://soloparentmag.com/jeff-leiken