What To Do Now So They Are Ready Then This morning I received a NY Times email update featuring an editorial on a topic that is near and dear to my professional practice and personal life as a parent: College students and anxiety and readiness. I couldn’t agree more with the author and also couldn’t…
Alarming Trend With College Boys There is a deeply concerning experience that too many college students – particularly boys – are having now. It is perhaps best summed up by this line that one college sophomore shared with me a few weeks ago: “I feel like I am sleepwalking through my college experience, especially my…
Advice to A Nervous Guy About Asking Out A Girl: A 16 year old boy reached out to me today about a girl he likes who is now suddenly sending him signals of her mutual interest. It is not 100% clear that she is “into him” but certainly there is enough evidence to suggest she…
Boys vs Social Justice, Schools, Simping and Cynicism: It’s Time To Address The Elephant(s) In The Room: Many teen boys and young men are struggling with coming of age in a very complex, chaotic world that in it’s effort to “upgrade” and evolve, is instead too often diminishing and marginalizing them and at worse,…
Fundamental #6: The Need To Express and Enforce Boundaries Fundamental #7: Take Responsibility For Your Life – Personal Power Fundamental #8: What and How Fundamental #9: Respect First, Then Trust Fundamentals In Action:
Fundamentals #1: The Excitatory Bias vs What Everyone Else Does Fundamentals #2: What’s About You vs What’s About Others Fundamentals #3: Determining Your Criteria Fundamental #4: Why Motivation Shouldn’t Be The Aim Fundamental #5: Who Are Your People Fundamental #6: The Need To Express & Enforce Boundaries
Always the Smartest One In The Room Occasionally but not infrequently enough, I come across the Person Who Is Always The Smartest Person In The Room. I’m not talking about the occasional time when circumstances, context and dialogue all align such that the person is (I have many moments like this myself – its…
No one knows what it’s like to be THAT parent of THAT kid, until you are That Parent When you have a child who is struggling, not only can trying to find the right help be agonizingly frustrating and even discouraging, it is often a very lonely journey as well. To show up at “drop-off”…
COLLEGE IN THE CORNFIELDS – A MOMENT OF RAGE I had a chance encounter the other day with a high school senior. A comment he made to me tapped into a bubbling rage that lurks barely beneath the surface inside me. I’m going to write/rant about this for anyone who cares to listen. I realize…
In my practice, I receive inquiries from two types of parents: Those who it pains and saddens to watch their kids struggling vs Those who are just frustrated and annoyed with them for not just making better decisions. The First Type: Don’t get me wrong, those in the first group certainly have their share of frustrations with their…